Monthly Archives: March 2013

Lazy Co-worker, Stupid Supervisor and Getting Fired

So I hate my job again. My supervisor ended up giving my new position to Lazy Tech and putting me back in my old position so that Lazy Tech wouldn’t be on the phones that much. Basically, there were too many complaints about Lazy Tech being rude, too many missed phone calls because Lazy Tech wouldn’t answer the phones like he’s supposed to…so because he doesn’t want to do what he’s supposed to and answer phones, it’s as if our supervisor relented instead of making LT do his job.

I was pissed when I was told this would happen. LT sent me an IM and asked me if I was upset with him. I responded that I have more of a problem with our supervisor, who is more and more seeming like an idiot to me–isn’t that almost always how it is with managers and supervisors? They’re fine at first, and then they slowly turn to schitt. It’s basically true that I am mostly pissed at my supervisor, not LT. I understand why LT doesn’t want to deal with phones and people.

Everybody at work is wondering why our supervisor keeps making these changes, so he just looks crazy right now. The guy who was training me in my new position and will be training LT, Easygoing Tech, does not want to work with LT. He basically told our supervisor that he doesn’t know why LT is still working at our company. And he had told our supervisor that I was doing a good job in my new position.

I complain about all of my jobs, but my new position was good enough to the point where I started thinking I could see myself at this company for years. If I’m going to be doing tech support for years and years, like others there have, no, I can’t tolerate that. I was definitely feeling happier working more hands-on with electronics and dealing with less people, and I really liked working with Easygoing Tech. And the days went by faster and a lot more stress-free.

Of course, doing tech support now is tougher than it was before I went to my new position because now I’m working with the new guy they hired. Working with new people sucks, and I’m sure people felt the same way about me when I first started. Newbies just don’t know anything, so the workload is nowhere near 50/50 right now–I have to do the majority of it, plus help him out. This guy they hired, on top of it all, is also hard to understand. He is a soft-spoken African guy, and there’s just a fine line when you’re thinking of hiring someone who needs to communicate in writing and vocally with English speakers. You don’t want to discriminate, but there are jobs where communication matters more than just about anything else. All we do is speak to people and write to people, and his writing is not that great to go along with his speech. And our job is not really for soft-spoken people. You have to be aggressive and just kind of annoy people with questions and all that–you can’t just sit there and not work because you don’t know the answers.

My co-worker Stanky Breath Tech and I were talking about the whole situation yesterday after work for about half an hour. He’s black, I’m black, our supervisor is white and LT is white. Today after work, SBT came to me and said something like, “You know what moving LT upstairs was about,” and then he rubbed his arm. I was surprised he did/said that, but I can’t articulate why…maybe just because we have never talked about race. Still, I said to him that my parents had told me the same thing, that if I weren’t doing my job adequately I’d be fired. He said he was telling his wife about the situation with me and LT at work and that was her first question, i.e. what race is LT.

I’m sure I either just completely lost most white readers right there, i.e. you’re no longer understanding the post, or you just got irritated because you don’t see what race has to do with anything or why other my co-worker and parents brought it up. But honestly, that’s just how black people think, especially older black people. SBT has grandkids, so I don’t know how old he is but he has got to be over 40. My parents are in their 60s. I don’t disagree with what they’re saying, but I’m also not going to declare that my supervisor is racist as I don’t think this is a racial issue on the surface or predominantly.

But I absolutely believe that if I didn’t do a good job at work, I’d lose my job. I don’t know how many chances I’d be given to make it work, but I don’t have a lot of faith that it’d be that many. I don’t know that my supervisor would sit and monitor me, lecture me repeatedly, send several emails about what I’m supposed to be doing and move me to what is essentially an easier position without a pay reduction before pulling the plug, but this is what LT is getting. I’m not attributing that to race, but I just feel that I wouldn’t be around.

And I’ve been fired before, and I wasn’t given warning after warning. One day a manager I had claimed money was missing, money that I’d taken in on my shift, and she called me at home to ask what I did with it. I told her I dropped it in their cash safe, and she said it wasn’t in there. The next time I showed up for work, they fired me and claimed they’d looked for the money but never found it and that I didn’t follow correct procedures for dropping the money. This is another one of those jobs that doesn’t train people, but suddenly when something goes wrong they have “procedures.” I was never given any kind of warning or told this could lead to my getting fired or anything. I was fired by two white people and a Latina, for whatever that’s worth. And I, to this day, don’t truly believe the money I dropped was ever missing.

This was a hotel job, by the way, and I worked at a hotel before where something like this happened to one of my co-workers, i.e. money was missing on his shift. He was not fired; he just had to pay the money back out of his paycheck (black guy, but the hotel was minority-owned). That sounds fair to me, and that is something I would have been willing to do. It was “just” $210 that was missing on my shift, which is an amount I could make after two days of work at that hotel. To me, firing someone after money goes missing on their shift, unless it’s upwards $1000 or it’s not the first time a lot of money has gone missing, means you just want the person gone. That hotel and its workers were cliquey, and I wasn’t part of the clique.

My point is that the only job I had where I ever made a sizeable “mistake,” I got fired. That’s my only point. I’ve been an exemplary employee everywhere else I’ve been. LT has had two jobs that I know of where everyone who worked with him had complaints about him and his work performance but nothing of significance ever really happened to him. Still, that’s my only point because it doesn’t matter, ultimately, if it’s about race, sex, sexual orientation or anything else. The bottom line is that I’m the good worker, yet I feel like the one who is being punished.

SBT told me that I should talk to the recruiter who placed me at this company about what’s going on. When he said that, I told him I don’t want to do that. But the more I think about it, the more I think I might need to do that. Either way, I’m going to have to tell him that we need to work on finding something more suitable for me once I hit the 6-month mark, just as he and I discussed about a month ago when I was unhappy working tech support.

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Catching On To the Lazy Guy Pt 2

It’s time for an update on what’s going on at work. This is part 2 of an earlier post.

In a way, I have a new job, and it’s a bit more likeable than what I had been doing where I work. I am far more hands-on with electronics, which is good. I don’t deal with email as much, and if we’re not getting a lot of phone calls I barely have to deal with people over the phone. But I’m also busier, which can be stressful. I am inundated with new laptops and computers to set up for employees, have to receive and account for purchases, and I feel more like I don’t have time to get everything done. This is usually the case when we are getting a lot of phone calls.

My being moved over to the position I’m doing now is almost like a promotion. It’s moving me away from working tech support, and I can get jobs at other companies doing the work that I’m learning how to do. Most likely because it does get one of us off tech support, Lazy Tech had told me that he wishes he could be moving into the position I’m being moved into. LT can’t stand answering phones–I don’t think most of the people where I work who have done tech support can stand answering phones. I didn’t and don’t like answering phones. In my new position, though, I will basically be a backup in terms of answering phones while LT is now the primary tech support contact…which LT really…hates. Obviously, it’s more work for him, and that makes it harder for LT to do as little work as possible.

Between feeling stressed out, which has really been more so this week than any other because I am doing my new position by myself this week without the guy who is training me, LT has just had me rolling on the floor laughing. He is completely unraveling, and it’s getting to the point where some of us wonder if his job is in danger. I kind of feel bad and, honestly, like a backstabber because he got me this job. But he’s really bringing a lot of stuff on himself.

I got moved to my new position almost three weeks ago, the same week I had my last doctor’s appointment. When I came back to work the next day after my doctor’s appointment, my supervisor was sitting where I used to sit. I thought it was a little odd, but I got some of my stuff and went upstairs to my new work area. Then LT IMed me and told me our supervisor was basically there to watch over him because he received complaints about LT. I’ve written before about how a couple of people have mentioned to me that LT is rude to them. Well, apparently, those people have started going to our supervisor about it. So, our supervisor was there to monitor LT’s calls. This is not the only thing LT has gotten in trouble over since I moved positions, and the fact that he is now doing tech support predominantly on his own is really leaving him exposed as far as our supervisor being able to see what kind of worker he is.

Easygoing¬† Tech (ET) is the guy who is training me. In a sense, he is being pushed out of his position for me to have it (and at this point, you can kind of see how effed up where I work kind of is). They are still planning to have him work for the company, but he will work on projects assigned to him. On the other hand, he told my supervisor–and I’m not sure when this was, but I think it was after my supervisor was already thinking of having me do at least some of ET’s job–that he is planning to apply for a position at another one of our company’s locations. He used to work at that location but left due to pay, but now the pay matches up. So I’m thinking he’d likely get whatever he applies for there. Either way, I will be taking over for him; I just hope he’s around long enough for me to learn everything I need to from him and get enough of his assistance. I get the sense that my supervisor expects him to leave, so he’s trying to make sure the company has someone who can do his job.

I really like ET, probably more than most–if not all–people I’ve met at work. He’s very nice, helpful and he’s always laidback. He has a 10-year old daughter whom I can’t imagine is not running all over him because that seems like the kind of guy he is–easy to run over. He will do all the work if I let him, but that’s also bad because I need to make sure I can do everything that is and will be expected of me.

Even with as nice and easygoing as he is, he still has quite a bit to say about LT. ET never sounds mean or upset, but he still talks about how LT is always turning his phone off and we end up getting all these phone calls even though we’re backup. One day while he was training me, we got so many calls that ET called our supervisor and told him LT was not answering the phones. The next day ET told me that LT let him know our supervisor got on to him about the phones. ET also told me that he has gotten comments from people about how rude LT is.

One day my supervisor told me that they are hiring someone else to help answer the phones. ET and I talked about it, and we were thinking it’d be a temporary thing. If everyone is doing what they should be doing, we don’t really need help with the phones. Most days we don’t get more calls than we can handle. That’s why ET said, “That doesn’t sound good for [LT].” A couple of days ago, I spoke with my supervisor about the person they’re bringing in to help, and I started realizing it’s probably not going to be temporary. It sounds like a new hire. The process they’re going through with this person is the same as what they went through when they hired me. I told ET about the conversation I had with my supervisor about the new hire, and we were trying to figure out why they’re hiring someone else–especially since a big part of the reason my supervisor moved me into my new position is to save the IT department money. Now they’re going to bring in someone new to pay?

About a day after that, LT IMed ET, telling him that our supervisor wants him to train LT on the position I’m being moved into. He wrote something like our supervisor wants him to handle phone calls less because of his demeanor with people over the phone. So let’s re-state: Because LT is not doing his current job the way he has been told, our supervisor is going to give him a slightly different job. Does that make any sense? Let’s put it this way–ET doesn’t believe LT. Our supervisor has told ET nothing about having LT train with him. Oh, and this IM also occurred after I let my supervisor know that LT is always trying to dump users he doesn’t want to deal with off on me by telling me he doesn’t have time or can’t deal with them. I simply let my supervisor know that this was interfering with my training and that he has been doing that even before my training but now I just don’t have time for it. So, I’d assume our supervisor did speak to LT, but who knows what all was said. Having LT train to do the same position I’m moving into wouldn’t make sense, because they need two people on tech support.

As I mentioned in another post here, I was told in my job interview with my supervisor that I’d probably end up doing my current position at least in part, so I wasn’t moved into it because I wasn’t good at tech support. My resume also indicates I have a lot of hands-on experience in addition to tech support; LT has more tech support experience than I do. Now, it could be that they’re bringing in another tech support person because they expect ET to leave, and that would make sense. But I don’t think ET has even applied for the other location yet, so hiring someone right now to start next week…I don’t know if LT has thought about it, but everyone I’ve talked to about this thinks it’s odd.

Anyway, so now the two other co-workers I used to work with predominantly downstairs have both had something to say about how LT performs his job, ET has done the same and our supervisor is now speaking to him regularly about his work performance. People are noticing that, however likeable (to people in our department) and sociable he might be, he is not doing a good enough job. If making more money matters so much to him, why is he reverting more and more back to how he used to be with our previous employer–which should have gotten him fired there–knowing that this company actually does fire people? You can’t just stop answering phones because you don’t want to answer them, especially when it’s your job to answer those phones…and you can’t have an attitude with people who work for our company because they dare call you for assistance, especially when it’s your job to give assistance.

What’s funny is I think personality does outweigh negatives with a lot of employers–I have seen it–and then there are other employers who just don’t want to go through the hassle of replacing poor employees, but here I feel like I’m seeing LT just self-destruct to the point where he will eventually be let go. And he’s the type of person who know matter how many times you tell him what to do and what not to do, he just does whatever he wants. Underneath the @ss-kissing and excuses, he really is just another one of those people who feels a sense of entitlement–he’s just not as blatant about it as the average entitled jackass is. People like that need to be shown that it’s not all about them and what they want, and that’s why, yes, I laugh at these stories about him getting in trouble. It’s not enough, though, obviously, because he hasn’t changed. Still, I have a feeling that in the somewhat-near future either he’ll change or his place of employment will.

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I Can’t Stand Her Emails

A few months ago I remember reading, I think, a blog post online somewhere, and the writer basically explained how she dumped this guy because he didn’t like to read. I don’t really remember thinking much one way or the other about the post. I read the comments, and there were people who understood where she was coming from. I don’t really remember anyone commenting that it was a ridiculous thing for her to do. Reading was very important to her, and she just couldn’t imagine being with someone who didn’t share the value of reading.

I like to read, too, but it’s not one of my deal breakers.

But apparently…being a bad writer is.

I know I mentioned in one of my last posts that I got this woman’s contact information and sent her an email. We emailed back and forth for a little bit–I think we exchanged three or so emails and never made it to the phone. Gawd, she just did every single thing I hate when it comes to writing.

I noticed with the first email she sent me, but I tried hard to overlook it. I wanted to give her a chance, but I also didn’t want to be ridiculous or snobby. It was a short email with a couple of spelling errors, a ton of grammar errors and “how r u” type of writing, as well as a couple of typical boring questions. I thought to myself, “Okay, maybe she wrote it on her cell phone…it’s hard to write well over those things.” That’s really what it reminded me of–either that or she was rushing. It couldn’t be that she was simply a writing-challenged moron–not after the way she talked and talked about looking for intelligence and good conversations, and about how educated she was.

Now, I don’t want anyone to think I sit and “grade” what people send me, what I read on the internet or even what you leave in the comments section here. I also don’t want anyone to think that I view my own writing as perfect. Writing can’t be perfect all the time, so I can understand some misspelled words and some grammar errors. I really do hate short emails, though. It makes me feel as if the person writing me is not putting effort into the email or as if that person is disinterested. I am also one of those people who hates small talk, and…well, age/sex/location and variations thereof is just about the online equivalent of that. If you’re intelligent and like good conversations, why not demonstrate that, you know? And using letters in place of full words is never okay with me (with few exceptions, such as “OK”), not even when texting me.

In short, she didn’t come across as engaged or that intelligent, and it’s hard to respond to what appears to be a lack of engagement as it is. But with her not coming off as too bright, it made me not particularly want to respond because I only welcome intelligent people into my life. I can’t consider dating someone who is not very intelligent. So it wasn’t hard for me to wait a while before responding to her email.

Still, I did write her an engaged response that was longer than what she’d written to me (nothing like my blog posts, so don’t freak out!). But her next email to me was just like her first one, and I was just kind of like…”Okay…I don’t know if I can take this,” hahaha. I mean, for me, it’s as if she’s assaulting my eyeballs. And how can you date someone if reading her emails and texts is visually painful? For me, it’s just a sign that she is not as intelligent as she was bragging that she is.

I think it might have been the same for the woman who dumped her boyfriend who doesn’t like to read. A funny thing about that is one day I was at work last week…I was sitting in the dining area, and there was a woman sitting in one of the booths in front of me, reading. And this black chick walked by and said to the woman in the booth, “I don’t like to read.” OMG (see what I did there?), I was calling this b!tch all kinds of “dumb bitch”es in my head. I was partially upset that she was black and announced this to a white woman. I mean, people already think black people are stupid, and now you just let this white woman know that you are, indeed, stupid. And you know black people are not judged individually.

I tried to calm myself by telling myself that most people nowadays don’t like to read, to the point where that’s normal and liking to read is practically nerdy. That doesn’t mean they’re not a bunch of dumb fucks, though. You don’t like to read? Seriously, you have to read everywhere. It’s an essential part of life, much more so than math (and yes, I know you have to count out change), even if not a hobby. Plus, there are so many different types of subjects to read–how can there be nothing you like to read? That’s why saying you don’t like to read sounds dumb. Sorry if I’m offending anyone, but that’s seriously my viewpoint–people who don’t like to read, can’t read and/or can’t write are…dumb…fucks, if for no other reason than that a lot of them proudly announce that they don’t like to read. Don’t go around announcing that schitt to people.

And to be fair, it’s not as if I sit around reading novels or literary works every week. But it’s not because I don’t like to. I love to read and, in fact, have been wanting some good books to read for quite some time now. I’ve read a couple of things recently, but I don’t count those because they were so…well, let me put it this way about one of the “books” I read. I wrote a review on it, saying that if it were ever made into a movie it’d be a porno flick (I didn’t know this when I started reading the damn thing, I promise). I am just struggling to find a good read, in part because I am in the mood to read what, I do not quite know.

So, I suppose that maybe not liking to read could be a deal breaker for me after all, just like crappy writing is. It’s a reflection of the larger picture, I think, which is the ability to discuss any and all things with some knowledge…not to mention, as far as writing, what used to be required to actually earn a high school diploma (clearly it’s not required now, with as poorly as young Americans write today).

I must confess–I also had to ask myself if maybe I was eager to ditch this writing-challenged chick because I’m still not over my “ex.” And then I thought about all of my “friends” and how much writing has meant to me my whole life. I don’t have one friend who sucks at writing, even the ones whose intelligence I sometimes underestimate. Every single last one of them can put together an email that reflects their intelligence. I think all of my girlfriends have also been able to write fairly well, even the one I had who only had a high school education. Again, the good ole days when they used to teach kids how to write correctly in high school–she would now be about 33 years old, I think…although Email Chick was about 29. But she did attend a garbage high school in my area, so maybe that explains it.

I also thought about this conversation my “ex” and I had one time when this other chick was interested in her. She was one of those “how r u” type of chicks. My “ex,” more or less, said to me, “When I look at this chick’s texts, it reminds me of why I like you.” To be quite honest…ditto right now. But that’s still in the past, and I am accepting that. There are plenty of other chicks out there who know how to not torture the English language and the written word. I know that. But Email Chick is not one of them.

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Playing Games With Women

Do any of you know of David DeAngelo or Doc Love?

I ran across these guys, like, a decade+ ago. I remember sharing my DeAngelo discovery with my best friend, and we just kind of laughed and talked about how stupid these “systems” for getting women are and how this crap only works on women with self-esteem issues. I definitely thought these guys with these systems were just jerks. Nowadays, there are a lot of systems out there, and I’m not sure how much variation exists among them. I suspect they say much of the same things.

Well, I’m about to say [write] something controversial:

It disappoints me greatly in women to realize and admit that there is a lot of truth in what these “jerks” think. I have now met decent, unique, intelligent women who seemed to be solid with themselves and who I thought would be above having to play games to keep them interested, and now I see they really are just like every other woman. I am starting to understand that, yes, if you like women romantically you have to play games with them.

Why did I, a woman, not understand this for well over a decade?

Well, because, frankly, I think and act more like men. I am the lesbian equivalent of the “nice guy.” I am realizing that’s why women don’t stay interested in me for very long. I am also looking back and seeing that when I attract women it’s pretty much always when I’m either being a jerk, being mysterious or just when I’m in a carefree place where I can take or leave the women around me and am just having fun. It’s never when I deeply give a fuck and she knows it, never when I want to spend all my time with her, never when I’m honest about everything, never when I’m giving her everything she needs and wants. You just have to hold back instead of laying it all out there, as if you’re playing cards or some such crap. You have to play it close to the vest, or the next thing you know you’re the damn doormat.

Admittedly, I often wish I were heterosexual, but not at all for the reasons most people would think. One of the biggest reasons why I have wished I were straight is because I know I would run the relationship with a guy as long as I were much the same way as I am now when it comes to interacting with men. He would care more than I would, and it wouldn’t involve my having to choreograph my moves and the things I say the way it’s apparently going to take with a woman. That might sound cruel. Why do I need to run things? That’s not how relationships are supposed to go. Maybe not, but when you’re always the one who is giving, doing, saying and then always ultimately getting dumped, you get sick of getting hurt. I can keep sitting here believing that I will eventually meet someone whom I can shower with all my feelings without being given the ole “maybe we can be friends” line before never hearing from them again and we can just be without fakeness or hiding anything from each other, or telling myself that there is a rare woman out there…or I can just spend the rest of my life alone. But I don’t think the latter is feasible, and I no longer find the former to be realistic. All of my relationships go, more or less, exactly the same way, which means something has to change.

I have been thinking about the last relationship I had a lot lately, and I don’t think it’s about wanting her back. I think I am starting to face some things and learn from them, which I think is moving me towards moving on and getting over that relationship. There are just so many things I’m learning from it, and I see so many mistakes. I was way too honest with her. And I could never see before how being honest is a bad thing, but it just is with women. I don’t mean you have to sit there and constantly lie to women, but you just don’t need to tell them everything about how you feel. I also need to exercise tons more self-control. Just because I feel like I want to be with someone all the time or speak to them all the time doesn’t mean I need to try to be with them all the time or speak to them all the time. I need to be busy and unavailable, even when I’m not. And there were times when I legitimately was busy, but I dropped things I’d normally be doing to be with her.

I need to read between the lines, too–or, more accurately, stop ignoring what I read between the lines just because I hear what I want to hear. I think there were a lot of things that I suspected, and she kind of denied them, only for them to either be admitted or implied in some way later on. And women tend not to be straight-shooters anyways, so reading between the lines is a must any way you slice it. You know what they say about actions speaking louder than words.

So, as much as I hate to do it, I’m now going to apply some of these things that I’m learning. I recently got this lady’s contact info and emailed her, and she responded after she got home from work. Normally, I’d sit at my laptop and email her back as soon as I get the email. But I’m going to wait at least a day and maybe longer to respond. I was honest upfront with her about one thing, i.e. the fact that I live at home right now because a lot of people have a huge problem with that in a prospective date/mate, and she said she doesn’t judge–which is crap because everyone judges–but we’ll see. Again, there will be further reading going on between the lines.

Tomorrow is my birthday and, thankfully, my supervisor was perfectly okay with my taking off work because work is the absolute last place on earth I’d want to be tomorrow. I tried to tell myself that I’ve missed enough work over the past month and I need to go in tomorrow, but I seriously couldn’t bring myself to tolerate it. So I’m just going to go shopping, enjoy my sports talk shows, rock out to some good music, sleep, maybe play a little basketball, eat some of my custom-made Michigan Wolverines birthday cake (my family has started having these made for me on my birthday and also had one made when I graduated from Michigan, as well) and just relax and try not to worry about women or work.

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